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Little Things We Need To Know

While I was in Secondary (high) school, we were taught some things (current affairs) as my teachers and parents expected me to know them….not just me but all students. But I think adults need to know them too soooooo let’s learn =D.

So, here we go:

SECTION A

Multiple Birth

  • Twins – two babies born together
  • Triplets – three babies born together
  • Quadruplets – four babies born together
  • Quintuplets – five babies born together
  • Sextuplets – six babies born together
  • Septuplet – seven babies born together
  • Couplets – eight babies born together
  • Nonplus – nine babies born together
  • Decaple – ten babies born together
  • Siamese twins – babies born with their bodies joined together in any manner

Someone help with what eleven babies born together are called?????

So, the highest I’ve seen and heard is eleven babies born together; haven’t heard about 12. Who has? And who had heard about Siamese triplets?? It’s been twins so far

Ok, this is getting interesting big time. Let’s move to the next!

SECTION B

Modes of Address and Official Titles

  • President – His/Her Excellency
  • Governor – His/Her Excellency
  • Foreign Ambassador – Your Excellency
  • Minister/Commissioner/Legislator/Chairman/Chairlady – Honorable
  • Judges – Your Lordship
  • Magistrates – Your worship
  • Kings – His Royal Highness
  • Queens – Your Majesty
  • Crown Princess – Your Royal Highness
  • Emperors – Your Imperial Majesty
  • Arch Bishop – Your Grace
  • Pastors – The Spiritual and Temporal
  • Military Officers – they’re called according to their ranks
  • The Activities/Union – The Comrade
  • Journalists – The member of the press

Okay, I’m somewhat confused now, help! If a man becomes the president, his wife becomes the First Lady, right? So if it is the other way round, shall we refer him to as First Man or what?

Ok, let’s get down to family business which is

SECTION C

Family Relationship

  • Father – a male parent
  • Mother – a female parent
  • Son – the male child of his parents
  • Daughter – the female child of her parents
  • Step son – the male child from a different male/female parent
  • Step daughter – the female child from a different male/female parent
  • Brother – a son of the same parent as another person
  • Sister – a daughter of the same parent
  • Uncle – a brother or brother in-law of one’s father
  • Aunt – a sister or sister in-law of one’s father or mother
  • Nephew – one’s brother or sister’s son
  • Niece – one brother or sister’s daughter
  • Grandfather – a male grandparent (one’s parent’s parent)
  • Grandmother – a female grandparent
  • Grandson – a male grandchild (one’s children’s children)
  • Granddaughter – a female grandchild
  • Grandchild – a child of one’s son or daughter
  • First cousin – a child of one’s uncle or aunt
  • Second cousin – child of one’s parent’s cousin

The list goes on….third cousin, fourth cousin (all distant cousins) but I think it stops at the fourth as I’ve never heard of a fifth cousin. If there were to be fifth, sixth, seventh cousins…and so on, we’d all be related =D.

We also have step grandparents, step cousins, step uncles and aunties.

But is there anything as step nieces and nephews?

And is there any I forgot to put down, please feel free to share in the comment section

Xoxo,

Victoria Lola ❤

Shyness

What does this even mean?

Well, I’d say it means feeling uneasy, timid or embarrassed around people. It is an extreme self consciousness that affects its victim in various ways.

Okay, let’s break that down with symptoms

1. Finding it hard to voice your opinion or speak up; keeping mute

2. Getting embarrassed with eyes pounding

And consequences?

  1. Shyness restricts its victims from realizing his/her full potentials
  2. It makes one accept items and situations they do not like because they’re afraid to say ‘NO’
  3. Such person loses out the joy of making new friends and meeting new people
  4. It makes one look uncaring, boring, unfriendly and proud
  5. And most importantly, you lose the joy of meeting the real-you. The fun part

Things you should know:

  • Shyness doesn’t describe what you are, it only describes your behavior
  • Key point ~ Stop worrying about what people say about you
  • Always bring positivity into your thinking
  • A difference of opinion does not mean rejection of a person

Now that we know what shyness means, how do we overcome this?

  • Be sociable
  • Be the first to start up a conversation
  • Dress comfortably
  • Stand straight and be calm
  • Smile and always take that deep breath
  • And lastly; Work more on who you really are inside; a person who is inwardly beautiful will always be attractive to others.

It ain’t gon be easy but with Self Confidence and Self Awareness, you’ll be amazed with the results!

Xoxo,

Victoria Lola ❤

Celebrating Leanne Prendergast

I’m privileged to mentor one of the most beautiful, toughest and intelligent creatures in the world; I met her some few days ago after I was assigned to mentor her.

Lemme introduce this amazing young woman to y’all.

She’s Leanne M Prendergast, she was born in London but moved to Canada at a very tender age. While in school, she was bullied because of her eyes :(. Yes. Her eyes. Imagine what she went through at a tender age. I mean, how could they have been so blind to see the beauty in those eyes; the awesomeness!

Suicide, an option? Surgery? Yes, she thought of those….she wanted a doctor to operate on those sweet eyes but the doc told her she might go blind and never see again. Thanks to her mum who encouraged her baby girl to write her experience in a book 

Getting To Know Me

…to empower other young women and girls who go through. Afterwards, guess what? She thrived. She survived. She found that strength and realized that inner power to move on in that magnificence.

Leanne Found Her Purpose

She also founded Love Our Lives, a nonprofit organization dedicated to helping victims of bullying.

She helps women and girls build their confidence and self esteem through PEAR method and empowerment projects, she helps girls see the inner beauty in them; the beauty that only that girl can see.

She has that passion burning in her, to help so many and I’m optimistic she can change the world. I believe in her….it’s a step by step process, right?

My special appreciation to the kids who bullied her (who are all adults now), thanks for bullying her…..because it helped her discover her beauty, her purpose.

Now, a little advice for all parents:

The Bible says in Proverbs 22:6 ‘Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it’.

Your children are your responsibility and their future lies in your hand; train your kids from cradle. If your kids are amongst the ones ready to bully other kids for one stupid reason or the other, then you’ve got a lot of work to do, and if you know your kids do this and you do nothing about it, you need to change….because on the judgement day, you’ll surely give account of stewardship- how you train your kids in the right way. And it won’t be nice if you’re asked to go to Hell because of your kids.

I keep thanking God for Lee’s life and the angel (her mum) He sent to her to help her during that time; because most kids would never tell their parents what they go through in school because they fear what is being said about them is true and won’t want their parents to know, thereby leading to depression, loneliness, low self esteem, bad behaviour, evil thoughts and suicide, etc….the outcome is never good….but thank God for Lee.
So, today is Lee’s birthday and she’s twenty something today (well, she didn’t give me the go-ahead to disclose her age but we cool with twenny sumfin, right?). Please help me wish her a super duper day.
On this day, may you bask in love, sunshine, happiness, good memories and flowers. Happy Womb Escape :* and have a blast my baby ❤

You can also help empower these victims by donating to Love Our Lives or reach out via LinkedIn

The next post will be from Leanne herself, sharing how she spent her birthday on a cruise in Miami


Xoxo,

Victoria Lola ❤

I’m worth a lot

Hello lovelies. How do you do today?

I found this and thought I should share

In a brief conversation, a man asked a woman he was pursuing the question: “What kind of man are you looking for?”

She sat quietly for a moment before looking him in the eye & asking,

“Do you really want to know?”

Reluctantly, he said, “Yes.”

She began to expound: “As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to ask a man what you can do for me that I can’t do for myself? I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man…. or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, “What can you bring to the table?”

The man looked at her. Clearly he thought that she was referring to money.

She quickly corrected his thought & stated, “I am not referring to money. I need something more. I need a man who is striving for excellence in every aspect of life.”

He sat back in his chair, folded his arms, & asked her to explain. She said:

“I need someone who is striving for excellence mentally because I need conversation & mental stimulation. I don’t need a simple-minded man. I need someone who is striving for excellence spiritually because I don’t need to be unequally yoked…believers mixed with unbelievers is a recipe for disaster. I need a man who is striving for excellence financially because I don’t need a financial burden. I need someone who is sensitive enough to understand what I go through as a woman, but strong enough to keep me grounded. I need someone who has integrity in dealing with relationships. Lies and game playing are not my idea of a strong man. I need a man who is family-oriented. One who can be the leader, priest and provider to the lives entrusted to him by God. I need someone whom I can respect. In order to be submissive, I must respect him. I cannot be submissive to a man who isn’t taking care of his business. I have no problem being submissive…he just has to be worthy. And by the way, I am not looking for him… He will find me. He will recognize himself in me. He may not be able to explain the connection, but he will always be drawn to me. God made woman to be a helpmate for man. I can’t help a man if he can’t help himself.”

When she finished her spill, she looked at him.

He sat there with a puzzled look on his face.

He said, “You are asking a lot.”

She replied, “I’m worth a lot.”

Great! I think I agree with her, to some points tho. I mean, here,

“As a woman in this day & age, I am in a position to ask a man what you can do for me that I can’t do for myself? I pay my own bills. I take care of my household without the help of any man…. or woman for that matter. I am in the position to ask, “What can you bring to the table?”

Is this necessary? Oh yea, she’s got the right to ask what he wants to bring to the table because good men with good realistic visions are scarce but how would you want him to answer this? I’m confused as to what answers he can give. Please help him

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So, sweethearts, here is the question.

Ladies, do you support all this woman have said? If your brother or son came home telling you this was the encounter he had with a woman he’s interested in…..would you advise him to give an answer or you’ll feel she’s proud and a feminist?

Gentlemen, if you got this from a lady who have interest in, what would be your response? Would you think she’s proud? Or this would trigger you to like her more?

Let’s do this, cupcakes!

Xoxo,

Victoria Lola ❤

Let’s make Chocolate Wreath Cake

Ingredients:

3 cups all-purpose flour, 1 tablespoon baking powder, baking soda, 1 cup teaspoons salt, sugar, semisweet chocolate; finely chopped, butter, eggs (lightly beaten), vanilla extract, fresh raspberries, dried cranberries or cherries for garnish, water, sugar, and food colouring (any color of your choice)

Ok, let’s start!

Preheat the oven to 350° F. Butter and flour the tube pan.

  • In a large bowl, sift togetger flour, baking powder, baking soda, and salt.
  • In a pot, combine sugar and water and bring to boil. Remove the pot and stir in the chocolate and one stick butter. When completely melted, whisk all the mixture to combine
  • Whisk in the lightly beaten eggs
  • Pour half of the chocolate mixture into the dry ingredients and whisk vigorously to thoroughly combine the ingredients and remove any lumps
  • Now, add the remaining chocolate mixture and mix
  • Pour the batter into the prepared pan and bake for an hour.
  • Let the cake cool in the pan for some few minutes, then turn out onto a rack to coop completely

  • In another bowl, cream together the remaining sticks of butter and the sugar. Mix until light and fluffy
  • Remove one-third cup of icing, place in a small bowl, color with few drops of food coloring.
  • Put the remaining icing in a pot, and add the vanilla. Over low heat, stir the icing until it becomes a pourable consistency (if it overheats, causing the butter to separate, put the icing in the refrigerator to chill and stir to bring it back together)
  • Pour the icing over the cooled cake
  • Cluster the berries on it….I blended my berries on it
  • Here, you have your chocolate wreath cake


Xoxo,

Victoria Lola ❤

Whose Responsibility now?

Hey lovelies, I know you missed me. I also missed you….. I’ve been sick! And thank God I’m getting better now.

So, I’m just going to throw a question at y’all after telling you what I think about an opinion.

Last Friday, my friends and I were having an argument about marriage! Family! Whose responsibility?

My friends think the responsibility to cook and attend to other house chores falls on the wife because the man is the head of the house, he married her, brought her to his house, and she bears his name, and its the  norm……..so many pointless reasons (well, I think these points aren’t reasonable). I cannot blame them much; that’s what they’ve been brought up to believe, right?

In my opinion, no one has the responsibility to cook and attend to other chores…not the wife, not the man. Yes! you saw that! I mean, what constitution or law says the wife has to do it all…….this is where abuse starts, really.

Chores are responsibilities and anyone can take them up, not imposed on anyone. You see your wife cooking, sweeping, fetching water and doing other things at the same time and you sit there, claiming to be the man, watching the TV or doing whatever it is you’re engrossed with….isn’t that unfair?

Let’s bring the Bible into this. God commanded respect for the man, right? But don’t you forget the Bible called the wife helpmate. The Bible said love your wife, God also commanded man as the head of his wife, his family (some men even quote the part of the Bible that says women are weaker vessels. You claim she’s a weaker vessel yet that weaker vessel does all the chores…huh?)No one is disputing the fact that you’re the head but being head doesn’t mean you turn your wife into a slave.

She leaves for work in the morning and comes back so tired, yet she comes in to resume another shift, without complaining……we’re human, please…how do you expect a woman to keep doing all these and not get exhausted some day….and not fade in appearance? And she still feeds her family from her earnings as majority of women are breadwinners. Ha!

A girl has to learn how to cook. If she cannot cook, why can’t she dream of marrying a man who does the cooking?

For the single ladies out there, please make sure you and your fiance understand and settle this before moving into that institution called marriage.

Note: I’m not complaining about women doing all the chores, I mean we love it! But helping out isn’t bad and stop making it a duty for us. Men, go into the kitchen and prepare a lovely meal for us…..that’s romantic, we love it, we think it’s special and we love you more when you help us with chores, without being asked.

If we need positive changes in our society, it starts with you, let’s educate our children, especially the male child, they do not have to grow with the mindset that all house chores belong to the woman.

So, here’s the question, whose responsibility is it to cook for the family, and see to the chores?

Is it the husband? the wife? Or no one has the responsibility to cook

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Do not get me wrong, this is not a feminist idea as some will think but just so we all can understand and learn from other people’s perspective…..Don’t forget….one of the aims of this blog is to learn. I’m learning also.

 

My ladies and gentlemen, talk to me, I need to know I’m not getting it all wrong, and if you think I need to understand one or few points, please make me.

Xoxo,

Victoria Lola ❤

50 + 1 Reasons Why You Should Learn Foreign Languages

First of all,

What is Language? It is the system of communicating in speech and writing; and this is used by people in a particular country or area. It could also be movement, symbols or sounds.

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I’ve always had much interest in learning new languages; and that’s what I’ve been doing, recently- thanks to Memrise and Duolingo; these are some of the best apps to learn any foreign language. I use Memrise for Spanish and Duolingo for French

With these apps, you learn and answer some questions (based on what you’ve learnt), there are stages (easy-difficult level); it gets harder as you graduate from one stage to another. There’s the classic review where you’re asked some questions (and answers may be typed or selected i.e. you listen to the pronunciation and pick an answer).

There’s also the Speed review; here you select the right answers within a given time; for instance, you’re given just 2 minutes to select the answers to 10 questions; this enables the app to know if you’re expert in the interested language or you need more classic review.

There’s the ‘Learn New Word’ where you learn new words from each stage. There’s the Listening Skills, Difficult words and Meet the Natives (my favorite). Meet the Natives gives you the opportunity to listen to the native of the language you’re learning, and you respond or interpret what they’ve said.

With these two apps, you are good to go! Isn’t this just great?

So far, I’ve learnt Spanish, French and Swahili with these amazing apps, I’m also learning Hebrew and Greek from my momma 😉 and learning her dialect too; she hails from Owo, Ondo State, Nigeria! I have zero interest in my dad’s dialect =D; I have a feeling with time, I’ll learn that as well

In my country, we’ve got 3 major ethnic groups (i.e. Igbo, Hausa and Yoruba) and more than 300 minor ethnic groups and each ethnic group (both major and minor) has its own dialect. Ok, Let me break in down; for instance, there are 36 states in Nigeria, 5 states belong to the Igbo (Abia, Anambra, Ebonyi, Enugu and Imo) and these states have 95 + local government in total (each LG has its own dialect; even one LG has up to 10 dialects; because there are different towns that make up these LGs and each town may have its own dialect), same for Hausa and Yoruba and the minor ethnic groups. So tell me, where do I start my lesson from? I can’t learn one-quarter of these in a thousand year, right?

Why I picked interest in world official foreign languages, and why you should, too

 

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  • these are world languages
  • language for the job market
  • opportunity to secure jobs with International organizations
  • you can easily make new friends
  • you keep your brain active
  • you appreciate art in its creative form
  • you show respect to foreign colleagues
  • you understand other people’s culture better
  • language of culture
  • it is a language of education
  • a language for work
  • you’re able to communicate with a larger network
  • you make yourself more indispensable
  • you easily invite International business into your city
  • you find it easy to relocate to anywhere in the world
  • strengthen your decision making
  • step back for perspective
  • you have better understanding of the world
  • you have better knowledge on how stereotype affects negatively
  • you cut out middlemen
  • you see the world from a different view
  • you’re more sensitive to cultural differences
  • you’re able to compete with anyone
  • learning common and difficult words can help improve and facilitate personal and business relationship
  • you get more paid
  • you fit for a better adviser
  • you can secure jobs abroad
  • easily study abroad
  • you develop love for other
  • could help you gain scholarship easily
  • you easily help foreign visitors to your city
  • you easily understand how we all connect
  • easily make new friends
  • relate with students and citizens easily
  • learn more about food
  • achieve a new dream
  • understand your culture and other culture for comparison
  • improve memory
  • think flexibly
  • network with people from anywhere in the world
  • keeps you active and healthy
  • read and watch foreign news easily
  • watch foreign movies easily
  • you also feel like a citizen when you travel, not like a stranger
  • you feel comfortable dealing with unfamiliar situations
  • improve learning skills
  • easily speak in code
  • advance your career
  • deepen your connection to foreign cultures
  • you enrich your travel experience and
  • for fun

What other reasons do you think are genuine? Drop your thoughts! I’d love to know them 😉

 

Xoxo,

Victoria Lola ❤